You’re not alone. Such “know your customer” laws are now the norm for banks, financial institutions, and many other companies that deal with money around the world. These rules exist to fight money-laundering, terrorism, and other crimes that involve capital flows. These required questions could include ‘how many customers do you have? or ‘who is your biggest customer?’. This means you have to nose your way into your customers’ business, even if you phrase it politely.
Robert Rubinson, a professor of clinical theory and practice and the director of clinical education at Maryland’s University of Baltimore School of Law, in the US, suggests stating upfront why you’re asking for these details.
“One approach…that I share with my law students when I teach professional responsibility, is to be transparent about why such questions are being asked,” he said. “Consider telling potential customers that your company is required by law to make these inquiries.”
If you give them assurances that you’re merely following the regulations governing your industry, they are more likely to worry less about the details or to be turned off by your questions.
“These customers are unlikely to be offended when a company is simply adhering to law and not voluntarily probing in a potentially intrusive way into the customer’s business practices,” he said.
In some cases, there’s nothing you can do to avoid upsetting customers. Some may feel these financial details are crucial to their negotiating position as they hammer out contract terms with you, and they won’t want to give up their advantage. To allay these concerns, you might wish to tell them how your company will use the data you gather from them, what department will have access to it, and how it will be stored.
As for those customers who really are doing something suspicious, you’d rather them walk off in a huff now than later.
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