The beginning of the end for the mademoiselle?

 
Images of Marianne The symbol of French liberty - and "egalite" - is a young woman, Marianne

A town in Western France has banned the word "mademoiselle" - the French equivalent of "miss". The move comes as feminist groups campaign for the word to be consigned to the dustbin of history everywhere. Could its days be numbered?

There are no longer any "mademoiselles" in the town of Cesson-Sevigne.

The small Brittany community has banned the use of the term in all its official documents, arguing that women, like men, should not be defined by their marital status.

From now on, teenagers, greying grand-meres and 30-something career girls there will all be known as "madame", just as men of all ages become "monsieur" as soon as they grow out of shorts.

The Germans waved goodbye to their "Fraulein", as a term to addres adult women, in 1972. In the English-speaking world the use of "Miss" is in decline - and on occasions when an honorific is required, "Ms" provides a convenient way of avoiding being pigeon-holed as either "Miss" or "Mrs".

But in France - just as in Spain with their "senorita" and Italy with their "signorina" - things are a bit different. "Madame" or "mademoiselle" can even be used to address someone in the absence of a name - "Would Madame care to be shown round the church?" a verger asks Flaubert's Madame Bovary.

Campaign badge It's a superfluous box, say feminist campaigners

These forms of address are not just about formality and respect, but also about flirtation and familiarity.

Doyennes of the stage and screen retain their "mademoiselle" status, regardless of how long in the tooth they are. Waiters can gently flatter a lady of a certain age by calling her "mademoiselle", and officials can patronise by refusing to call a woman "madame".

But for the mayor of Cesson-Sevigne, Michel Bihan, the key thing is eliminating "discrimination".

Elected in 2008 on a sexual equality platform, he and a group of like-minded councillors have been transforming the town of 16,000 to change anything deemed unequal.

The changes have been both practical and symbolic - there are now changing rooms for women at the town's stadium and council texts use both masculine and feminine wording when women might be among the number referred to.

His slogan at the last election was "une ville pour tous" ("a town for all") though he now says it should have been "une ville pour tous et toutes", using the feminine form of the word for "all" too.

"It just seemed like the natural step for us. It is symbolic - a signal, a gesture, but one among many," he said of the decision to ditch "mademoiselle".

Would Simone de Beauvoir approve?

Marianne

What is more important for a French little girl today? To be addressed as Madame from the age of four, or to know that her mother is paid the same as a man doing equivalent work?

What is more important for a French woman today? Never to hear the word Mademoiselle again or to be reassured she can find a place at the creche for her three-month-old baby?

What matters more, banning a word that has only cultural significance, or that we get more women in parliament?

We should learn from our mothers who, in 1972, broached the issue of titles, and decided that, actually, there might be more substantial issues to campaign on.

French writer Agnes Poirier in The Independent

It's not the first time a French municipality has taken such a step. The city of Rennes, close to Cesson-Sevigne but far larger, officially dropped the word in 2007. But this time there is also a national campaign by feminist groups against "mademoiselle".

They want Madame to be de-coupled from the idea of a married woman or wife to become, like Monsieur, a general term of address.

Women can buy badges with the "mademoiselle" option crossed out and are encouraged to download a letter to their electricity provider or bank informing them why wish to be called "madame".

But why, others have argued, should we fret over the linguistic cosmetics of which box on a form gets ticked when key issues such as equal pay, availability of child-care and political representation remain bigger practical obstacles to a fully equal society?

Professor of applied linguistics Dr Penelope Gardner-Chloros, of Birkbeck University, says that a society's language - and how it chooses its terms of address - can reflect deeply ingrained attitudes.

"[Language] it is a sensitive indicator of the distinctions that a society makes - so if it is important to know if a woman is married or not, then it will be indicated in language," she explains.

"'Mademoiselle' was a courteous title and there was even a male equivalent - 'Mondamoiseau', though it was very rarely used," and later fell out of use completely. (The word "damoiseau" can be translated as "squire".)

Damsel and mistress

  • The word "Madame" comes from the French word for "woman" ("dame") but "mademoiselle" comes from the word for "damsel", "demoiselle"
  • In English, "Miss" and "Mrs" are both abbreviations of the same word, "mistress"

More equal societies tend to put less emphasis on regulating forms of address, Prof Gardner-Chloros says.

The fact that the words "Miss" and "Mrs" are used less frequently in English than in French suggests that British society has had less use for the distinction. In a similar way, English dropped the word "thou", a more familiar version of the pronoun "you", as time went by, while French has retained "vous" and "tu".

Language, she says, can sometimes drag its feet behind social norms. The adjustment with "Fraulein" came in Germany in the 1970s, and it may be that the same is beginning now in France.

 

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    Comment number 447.

    As a half-French living in France I have to point out that actually, most males get called "jeune homme", which carries the same connotation of young/unmarried lady of mademoiselle (the litteral meaning of either of those appellations are not the point here).

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    Comment number 371.

    I live in France & love it when I get called Mademoiselle (I'm 37, married and have an evident wedding ring on my left hand!)! It makes me feel young! But my question is, what about young girls/kids? Sometimes it's necessary on forms to have Mademoiselle for minors. I wish they would just do away with Tu & Vous! It's so ridiculous having the polite and formal & I hate it!

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    Comment number 337.

    I find it amazing such strong opinions are being expressed here by ppl who clearly have no clue of French culture.

    France never went through a period of female emancipation.Women still have to conform to an ideal of femininity that to UK eyes can seem flashback to the 50s.Symbolic & daft this change may seem to us but France is a country where symbolism matters.This change does make some sense.

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    Comment number 31.

    Trivial for some perhaps but as a Brit living in France, Mademoiselle has been used by some with a certain tone to patronise. I am 35 years old but lucky enough to not always look it so it happens often. I also prefer my given name especially as the French are one of the few nationalities who manage to pronounce it properly!

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    Comment number 30.

    i loved being referred to as 'mademoiselle' when i lived in France. That said I'm sure it is much more important that young French women can find a nursery place for their child when they want to return to work.

    I don't think everyone being called 'Madame' makes you more equal!

 

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