A Point of View: Why people sometimes prefer lies to the truth

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Has our world become a place where a plausible or entertaining lie is more welcome than the truth, asks writer AL Kennedy.

More than a decade ago, I met a liar and I rewarded him for lying to me. At the time it seemed like the right thing to do.

Imagine it's a January night with snow underfoot and I'm with a group of Scottish writers, loose in Manhattan after an upstate festival we're all slightly glad is over. We were heading for dinner, but at the moment we're standing in the dark, cold air while a total stranger lies to us. We know he's lying because the story he's telling makes no sense and we're quite good at stories. And we're kind of giving the stranger notes to improve his scam while he's requesting cash. The man isn't dressed for the weather and is shivering. The shivering isn't a lie. And we do all give him money. We say we aren't fooled, but are rewarding his excellent performance and we want him to head indoors now and be warm. He gave a good show and we're paying for it.

At the time this all felt like an unfamiliar situation - being openly deceived and rewarding the deceiver anyway, choosing to treat deception as entertainment, rather than feeling robbed, or seeking redress. Today it seems the scenario is commonplace. Falsehoods proliferate - multiple TV formats rely on cheap and nasty deceptions, but they're just fun. It's less fun when MPs juggle statistics until they blur, companies tailor phrasing to dodge lawsuits and many of us now assume something isn't true, precisely because we read it in the papers. And batsmen won't walk - because cricket just isn't cricket any more. Reliable truths seem threatened, if not unobtainable. And the public response required is apparently that of an appreciative audience. It's all just showbiz now.

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AL Kennedy
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And yet we generally dislike being deceived. In fact, we try to avoid it. We pore over articles and online guides which promise to reveal the honesty of our partners. We study books on body language so we can decode each other in love, or business. Our crime dramas emphasise the importance of scrutinising eye movements and gestures. While government surveillance and commercial data mining appropriate private truths, we can buy software to monitor our loved ones. In what feels like an age of lies, we struggle to establish the truths of others. Once suspicion enters in, the lover's question, "What are you thinking?" can begin to expect the answer, "That I'll smother you in your sleep."

Because it's hard to know if someone's lying. Lie detector tests generally aren't admissible in court, because they don't reliably know either. Juries tend to believe eye witnesses who believe themselves, although they're notoriously likely to be mistaken. Professional investigators tend to be only averagely good at spotting lies, but - disastrously - tend to believe they're much better than average. Examining video recordings of faces for micro-expressions can be informative to trained observers. But professionally and privately, observer bias can lead us to seek only evidence that reinforces our preconceptions. And how do we get the truth from those who are delusional, or who feel comfortable lying, or who've trained themselves to lie effectively? They could be deeply dangerous individuals but impervious to interrogation.

Some famous liars

Pinocchio
  • Baron Munchhausen - 18th Century German nobleman who made up so many tales about his battlefield exploits that his name became byword for lying
  • Pinocchio - fictional wooden boy (pictured) whose nose grew longer every time he told a lie
  • Kim Philby - high ranking British intelligence officer and Soviet double agent; declared "I have never been a communist" before defecting to Russia in 1963
  • Bernie Madoff - NY financier sentenced to 150 years for defrauding investors of an estimated $65bn

And when the stakes are high, when we've been harmed, or believe we will be, then the pressure to prove and punish guilt, to really deal with those who have terrible capacities, increases. But how do we unlock generally mysterious, possibly resilient, perhaps monstrous human beings? How do we get the truth from expert liars?

Back in the realm of showbiz - we're increasingly told by TV and movies that the answer to our problems lies in torture. Heroes and heroines used to remain unbroken by evil torturers. From Mr. Blonde to Jack Bauer, Ethan Hunt to Dexter and across a slew of cop shows we're offered fictions in which heroes and heroines are torturers, who threaten torture, who ramp up their interrogation violence in glitzy, even funny ways - although the camera shies away from showing anything too dreadful. It's sexier to flirt with the idea of torture than show the hours of degradation, the scars of abuse, still punishing decades later.

And politics being, as they say, showbiz for ugly people - the lure of torture as a no-nonsense, macho necessity can seem irresistible. What once was held to be a practice of dark regimes is now presented as a not-too-embarrassing home truth, softened by a Hollywood makeover. It has been redefined as "torture lite", or something a refugee victim did to themselves, the bad habit a useful ally may yet grow out of, the useful habit we exploit in bad allies, something threaded darkly through UK court proceedings.

On lying

  • "History is a set of lies agreed upon" (Napoleon Bonaparte)
  • "A lie that is half-truth is the darkest of all lies" (Alfred, Lord Tennyson)
  • "A lie told often enough becomes truth" (Lenin)
  • "In a time of deceit telling the truth is a revolutionary act" (George Orwell)

But those who find the practice of torture acceptable have not only abandoned their humanity, they have also forgotten their history and fallen for a lie in search of truth. Arguably the first manual for witch-hunters, the Malleus Malificarum - first published in 1487 - included a warning that torture victims might say anything to stop the pain. In Cautio Criminalis, printed in 1631, former witch confessor Friedrich Spee also warns against the tainting effects of pain and the tendency of one untrue confession to unleash a cascade of exponentially unreliable information. He notes that if both confession and silence are taken as signals of guilt then everyone is guilty. Truth evaporates.

Child looks at photos of Khmer Rouge torture victims Pol Pot's victims are remembered at the Tuol Sleng Museum in Cambodia

Combine observer bias with unfettered cruelty and paranoia and you get the Holy Inquisition's centuries of pain. Or you get Pinochet's Chile, Pol Pot's Cambodia. You walk inside Abu Ghraib, the Columbia Haus, the Lubyanka, buildings where innocence becomes impossible and the only truth that emerges concerns torture itself - that torture isn't about information. What it gathers is often useless, or worse. Torture is a promise of terror - enough terror to subdue a mind or a population. Except, of course, the promise is a lie. Torture blinds security forces with repetitions of the nightmares they brought with them and it begs for justice, creates opposition.

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Among other forms of resistance, torture produces whistle-blowers, people who can walk into buildings infected with inhumanity and remain human. They make the truth of torture known, sometimes at great personal risk. It seems, in fact, an epidemic of various concealments and deceptions is giving rise to a wider and wider whistle-blowing response. While the powerful seem increasingly able to simply redefine what truth is - what is, is - the whistle-blowers are treated with increasing severity. In government, in business, in healthcare, education and the security services, the useful truths whistle-blowers bring are ignored, or punished with dismissal, smears, gagging orders, even imprisonment. While journalism can sometimes seem irrevocably corrupted by rented opinions and gossip, serious investigative journalists - professional truth tellers - are in every sense an endangered species, specifically targeted in war zones, curbed and intimidated by both oppressive regimes and democracies.

So we exist, it would appear, in a world where truth is punished and liars may lie at will - about levels of surveillance, expense claims, about statistics and financial transactions, about abuses, failures in care, about the crushing to death of human beings at Hillsborough - and only slowly, slowly will truths emerge and then be denied, before the even slower push for acknowledgement, then justice, then perhaps reconciliation, progress.

Hillsborough victims memorial at Anfield stadium, liverpool The truth about the Hillsborough stadium disaster is still emerging

Our situation seems bleak. But, equally, we may be at a tipping point when the showbiz dazzle of the narrative is no longer enough to make us pay up, express our gratitude for the skill of the fraud. More and more individuals now have more ways than ever before to declare necessary truths. We may be on the brink of an age when both lies and fears diminish and we can face each other honestly to find the joys in privacy and revelation. Maybe to ask and answer, "What are you thinking?" can be again an act of love.

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Here is a selection of readers' comments.

Pervasive dishonesty is a symptom of "the normalization of sociopathy" (UK: "psychopathy", though in the US that's a law enforcement term and the psychiatric term is "antisocial personality disorder"). While parents freak out over the risk their kid may turn out autistic or Asperger's, the truly dangerous psychiatric pandemic is sociopathy, and it is causing enormous harm. Violent street thugs who "show no emotion or remorse" at trial are classic examples, and white-collar financial fraudsters are as well. Meanwhile these and suchlike scum become the staple of "entertainment" to make them seem exciting or merely goofy, and their attitudes spread like measles. What's needed is to recognize the enormous harm that sociopathy causes at all levels of society, and then mount a serious campaign in medical science to seek a viable treatment.

George Gleason, Berkeley, California, USA

My grandmother who emigrated from Czechoslovakia to the US when she was 18 years old in the 1880s always said "sometimes a lie well told is better then the truth". I have found over the years that she was right. After all, all the men I know will always tell an ugly woman that she is beautiful.

Ronald Grube, Minden, NE USA

I think that the level of lies is starting to become more apparent and it is leading to despair on the part of the people who don't want to live in a world of lies and a police state. You see these acts of despair spill over into movements like wikileaks and school room slayings etc.

Kevin McCaughey, Omagh, County Tyrone

Perhaps the least-addressed but most damaging lies of all are those perpetrated by the established religions and their institutions - lies which have enslaved mankind for thousands of years and continue to do so. The educated, the atheists, the non-believers, think they have escaped those stultifying dangers - itself another lie. The tragedy is that the truth of real religiousness is buried under so many dung heaps of lies that the nonbelievers, who understandably see only the dung and not the diamond beneath, throw the whole pile out - the baby down the plughole with the bathwater. Lies exist not just to entertain or confuse us, but to help those who wish to control us oil the wheels of social harmony in a mystifying world. Their effort is to try to make sense of it on our behalf, rather that risking our making our own sense of it ourselves.

Savita, India

This is the second A point of View article where the writer has posited a question in the manner of an ingenue. In the last article she used the Monty Hall problem without naming it. In this piece she blithely ignores the vast amount that we do know about lying and why people do it. In the world of business we refer to this as 'admiring the problem'. We spend more time analysing the problem and how big it is rather than seeking a solution. As regards lying the science is simple and elegant. We are preprogrammed to mislead where it is to our advantage. We are also preprogrammed to prefer honesty. I will happily explain these ideas with the empirical evidence backing them.

Alan Macfadyen, Lamberhurst, UK

Lies are often a response to fear. More forgiveness and understanding of the human condition is needed. Allow people who have erred to go on to be more than their least-proud moment (during which they may have barely had conscious control of themselves - who really knows why anyone does anything?). Let there be ways to make amends and move on. Lose the 'holier than thou' attitude toward people who have been caught out in the wrong. Stop defining them by it ad infinitum. Then maybe people will be less afraid to admit a mistake, less afraid of people who point out mistakes, less ready to lie their way through. Kindness is the only way to a better world.

Emma Leah, London, UK

I think there may be more to it than showbiz Dazzle. I think there is also a deep political cynicism, a feeling that the politicians really are in the hands of corporate lobbies or tied up by bureaucracies, that democracy no longer works, that people en masse do not have the power to change things, that our only function is to focus on ourselves as consumers and ignore as much as we can what is going on. I think of this as a supporter of homeless dogs who are tortured, beaten and killed with the full cooperation of citizenry and governments all over the Balkans, yet neither there nor in Europe itself does exposure to these horrors bring about mass protest, even among dog lovers. There is little sense that something can be done - even though it can, of course, if there is the will t do it. The problem of moving on the dog issue is I believe part of this deeper political and cultural malaise which is a symptom of oour current decline as a civilisation.

Arjun L Sen, Mijas, Spain

Lying is awful: it makes life far too complicated. What starts off as a little lie is like the middle of a spider's web - everything gets bigger and in the end lying leads to corruption, cynicism, disbelief in everything and mistrust in everybody and life gets horrible. On the other hand, it's a brilliant base for writing stories… but is that a good basis for living? From the point of view of getting on 80 years on earth, definitely not a good working proposition. Truth makes life much easier to live!

Sarah Bell, Milford-on-Sea, Hampshire

I'm not sure I believe this about being the age of lies. If so it probably started in that era known as the mists of time. I'd call this the age of cynicism. Once we all believed the lies we were told. Now we look for the lie in everything and usually find it, And that's the problem. We sheep are no longer reliable. Order needs to be restored. Lies need to be bigger and better; less easily rumbled. Can we count on the authorities, religious leaders, ad-men, con men, indeed everyone to do that? Something tells me they are all working on it right now.

Jeff Hubbard, London, UK

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